Sunday, 10 January 2016

The way she talked about her ex

It was a beautiful date
The gentle breeze, made her scarf gently blow
It was time for him to ask that question
That question many women dread

"Tell me about your ex" 
The man asked the woman he is getting to know
She gave a giggle, then looked down
Will she be evasive like other women?

She opened up about her past relationships
Four of them in number
She mentioned the names of those four men
And how long she dated them

She was clear about why the relationships ended
The first man cheated on her
The second used to beat her up and drink too much
The third, well, he just dumped her

The fourth was the most painful
He hid the fact that he had a child with another woman
Then he cheated on her
And got another woman pregnant

Her scarf fell to the floor
This man on a date with her stood up
Knelt and picked up the fallen scarf
As he placed the scarf around her neck, he was sure

He was sure this is the woman he wants to grow to love
Because this woman, is honest
She trusts him with her dark past
So many women feel an ex is a no go topic

He was so sure about her
Because in as much as those four men hurt her
There was no anger or bitterness in her
She was so graceful and optimistic about love, a sign of true healing

He was so sure about her
Because there was no hate
Though those four men wasted her time, she had moved on
Often, women carry hate and suspicion from the previous relationship into a new relationship

He was so sure about her
Because she owned up to her mistakes
She didn't lay blame on the four men only
She can critic herself, such a woman is wise

He was so sure about her
Because she made it clear to him
That this new man better treat her right, or else she'll walk away
She knows her worth and won't put up with crap

But above all, he was so sure about her
Because she admitted that her past four relationships did not work out 
Since God was not in them
This new man's love for God, is what attracted her to him

So this new man knelt near her
He said, "Like your scarf that fell
I will catch you when you fall in love with me
For I have already fallen in love with you"

She kissed his forehead and said
"I am already in your hands, I have fallen for you too
Now that you know my past
Please build with me our bright and Godly future"


( Yes! Our birthdays are 5 days apart but a 3 year difference.)

Tuesday, 5 January 2016

Fall in love with my best friend

The best relationships and marriages happen when the two people in it are best friends.

1. A best friend is loyal, so there will be no issues of unfaithfulness. No one betrays a true best friend no matter how tough things get, no matter what anyone else has to offer.
2. A best friend knows your good and bad and still loves you. You need to be loved for who you are while you still live on Earth.
3. A best friend will never bore you. In fact, you two will look forward to spending time together. There will be no need to beg for attention, or coming home late or avoiding you. You are so used to and dependent on each other's company.
4. A best friend will have your back and look out for you. You are in safe hands.
5. A best friend will still value you when sex is not the agenda. He/she is not in it merely for sex but companionship.
6. A best friend will treat you as an equal. There will be no battle of the genders or issues of a man's role versus a woman's role. There will be mutual respect between man and woman.
7. A best friend will stay with you because he/she needs you and knows you need him/her.

8. A best friend will be comfortable to do silly things with you, laugh with you, be free with you, be a clown with you; no pretending. You need laughter in love.
9. A best friend will be honest with you, no sugar coating, no secrets. He or she will tell you the truth whether it's hard to accept or not, he or she will confront you without beating around the bush. Honesty makes love real and makes it grow.
10. A best friend will make you the priority, no other human will come between you two. You will not need to run to another or feel you can open up to another better than you open up to your spouse.
11. A best friend will be more interested with the the function of friendship than the title of husband or wife. A title is easy to take away, but a true best friend bond is hard to destroy. He/she will hold on to you through the storms, the title is a matter of formality. Because he functions well as a best friend, he will make a great husband; because she functions well as a best friend; she will make a great wife.

12. A best friend ends up being the best spouse in bed. The sweetest love making happens when there is closeness outside the bed. A best friend will know everything about you, including your body, your heart beat, your mood, your eyes, your reasons.
13. A best friend is at the top of the hierarchy of all your friends. Your friends will surround and support you two. You will not need to worry about your friends stealing your spouse or interfering when you two are firmly placed at the top.
14. A best friend will make loving easy. No rules, no boundaries, no complications, no rigidness. This is the person who knows you better than anyone else, no walls between you two.

15. A best friend is hard to leave because no one knows you and understands you better, this is as good as it gets.

If you both leave each other, where will you go when the best is when you two are best friends married to each other?


PS: IT'S MY BIRTHDAY TODAY!!!! Happy birthday to me....

Had most certainly looked forward to it because of the individuals who have been with me all throughout last year. Specifically, one psycho and weirdo above! We're in this together.